I hate being helped, I hate being cared for.
I don't want people to show their care for me.
The reason is simple - I think most people do it as a favor, they do it so that I feel thankful - but I don't !
When I don't feel thankful towards them, they feel hurt ! " We did so much for you, and you ? "
Forgive me, I can't be kind and formal. You help me, if you wish to. Don't expect anything. But people do expect at least a feeling of greatness ! Wow ! what a good person I am !
They help, just to avoid feeling guilty. If they don't help others, they'll feel guilty especially if the other person is from family or friends.
I hardly feel thankful, so I avoid getting any kind of help or care from others, even if I am extremely sick !
Ofcourse, there is also a pinch of ego in this - not to bow in front of anyone for help. But I find it quite healthy !
But - I enjoy being cared by my Mom, she expects no thanks ! and that's why I enjoy it !
She'd just do whatever she wants to without any expectations. There is no bondage on me too, to say thanks or feel thankful - it a normal human relation.
If I feel like helping you - where is the question of thanks and thankfulness ?
I am doing this with my own wish - if you feel thankful that's your wish but it shouldn't be a mandate for help - which is always !
We might not realize it, or it might be just hidden deep down. But we all just help to feel great !
The simplest prove is - "Why do we feel hurt when the person we helped, does something unpleasant to us ? " The main reason is that , because we helped him/her, we expected him/her to be servile ! We are hurt coz he/she reacted opposite to our expectations !
Seek no help ! Do no Help ! Unless you got no expectations !
